Let's Talk about Hypocrites for a Second...

So. Here's the thing; we've all had people in our lives that have lived to tear us down. They are our so called "friends," so it is done completely out of love. Oh, but of course!

Let us note that there is a difference between helpful, loving criticism meant to encourage growth in our lives, and the hypocritical tearing down of one's spiritual, physical and emotional being.

Is any one person better than another? No! We all posses the same base human qualities. We all have the ability to love and to hurt.

We all have to be able to look at ourselves and realize that we are human, imperfect beings, just like everyone else. And just like everyone else, we are valued.

So why do some find it necessary to tear others down? Why do some feed on contantly defaming others around them? Usually it is just to feed their need to be superior in some sense.

If you are insecure; that's okay. Everyone is to some extent. You don't have to shoot down someone else's confidence to feed your own.

I've learned lately to choose carefully those people that I will allow close to my heart. Why? I've had a few hard knocks with hypocritical love. I've allowed people close to me to tear at me. I know that I am no better person than the next. I have all the same base qualities. But I also know that because we all have the ability to hurt, we have to protect our hearts.

Here's what I think; if you have the gall to slander a friend to someone else, or cut a friend down, you must think you are above reproach in those areas. Wow. Doesn't that put perspective on that?

We've all done it. We've all hurt someone in this way. What kind of damage have we cause?

We've all allowed people to hurt us in this way. Why? Do we need that person's acceptance and "friendship" that much? Not really. If you confront them and they continue on with it, they probobly aren't a true friend to begin with. They are probobly someone you should hold at arm's length. Not because you are better; to protect your heart. This type of thing is a disease. If you let it into your heart, you may start to see it flowing in your veins. You may in turn find yourself passing this hurt on.

Anyways...these are the things I've been thinking about. I've had to do some "heart protection" lately.

Check out this song I wrote a few years back about this:

HYPOCRITICAL LOVER

Lyrics by Melony Belfleur

Music by Melony Belfleur and Ian Belloso

©2006 Melony Belfleur and Ian Belloso (ASCAP)

Verse 1

You told me to stop the tears from falling

but I'd like to see you cry for once

And who are you to make me cry,

Then slap me in the face and tell me I've hurt you?

Who are you to make me guilty?

Who are you?…

Who are you?…

Who are you?...

CHORUS

You are my hypocritical lover

You are the reason I live, the reason I die inside

You are my hypocritical lover

You are the reason I smile, the reason I cry inside

You are the reason I stay but emotion'ly leave inside…whoa…

Verse 2

You are both my enemy and my best friend

I'm sure I've held you too high in my regard

But who are you to put me down?

You dismembered me piece by piece,

then told me I tore you down.

Who are you to make me guilty?

Who are you?…

Who are you?…

Who are you?...

Who are you?…

(REPEAT CHORUS)

Thanks for listening to my rantings.